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| - On advice of former counsel I was referred to Forensic Counseling & Evaluations group lead by Dr. David Weinstock. The Intensive Family Therapy approach was recommended; a week long, three hours a day approach utilizing the entire staff of the team divided up to handle counseling of my entire family during a divorce proceeding, with the goal of speeding up the reconciliation to my children process. I was led to believe this was an approach tested and used in other strained family proceedings as a result of a divorce. What I learned after signing up was my family was the guinea pig family! I was misled and this display of dishonesty and misrepresentation is a huge red flag of credibility in my mind. What I found was a very nice team of female therapists with the proper initials after their names, but lacking real world experience to deal with family issues; they were all young, single and without children. When I asked one to paint the picture of what a healthy family looks like, she answered," it is different for each family"! Wow! How would they know when the family has met the goal or was healed when there is no standard or goal to reach? I found Dr. Weinstock to be very impressed with himself (I am being polite here) and unable to admit mistakes or deliberate tactics used to actually undermine the process of reconciliation to my children. I confronted him on many occasions questioning how certain issues presented helped in the healing and reconciliation process and he ignored me or disregarded my comments. Just because counselors have degrees, doesn't mean what they say is the best answer and approach and when it comes to Dr. Weinstock this was most true. A common comment from all the therapists was we "aren't here to look at the past, we are here to look forward and look at behavior going forward"! I agree moving forward with understanding of what healthy behavior should look like, but what they are telling patients is, "we don't care about issues that have affected you personally and the family dynamics, we are here to let those issues fester, boil and grow worse below the surface, and never be resolved and understood because those unresolved, un-addressed issues will keep you coming back! This is ludicrous; any rational person understands "freeze points", or traumatic experiences in any person's life need to be understood and resolved before a person can move forward to become healthy! In Dr. Weinstock's case, his feelings and opinions about issues was more important and the standard he imposed about certain situations more important than my personal standard and goals of behavior for my children. Let me share an example. During a session with my four children I noticed my youngest son wasn't sitting up straight and wasn't showing respect and attention to Dr. Weinstock. I politely whispered to my son to sit up straight and pay attention to Dr. Weinstock. Dr Weinstock turned to me and stated, "You do not have permission to correct your son, you have been out of his life for a year!" He further stated, my son's sitting upside down on the chair as he spoke didn't bother him! I politely replied to Dr. Weinstock that I appreciated the fact my son's behavior didn't bother him, but it may bother another person he might show this behavior to and it bothers me as his father; I want a higher level of behavior for my children in professional situations. How did this facilitate my reconciliation to my children when Dr. Weinstock replied to me the way he did and put the thought in all my children's minds that I am not allowed to parent them just because due to the court system I haven't been in their lives? I could write a book on many other offensive,and undermining things done in therapy with Dr. Weinstock but will leave everyone that reads my review with this least offensive example. Stay away from this ego maniac and don't be swayed by a JD and a PhD! Look for a counselor with wisdom and sensitivity to the fact that every person and family is different; and a counselor with more compassion and open mindedness to look for the truth needed. Dr. Weinstock's using the court system to line his pockets and I don't see a sincere effort to see things objectively, but rather see them through his very biased eyes. Consider a man who is king of his practice; is the only male in the group; surrounded by a team of young, attractive counselors; and ask yourself the question, "What insecurity and shortcoming is this man personally trying to overcome in his own life, and how might this affect the influence he may have on my children and family"? By the way, after spending over $10k over two months and nothing to show for it, I am a bit skeptical of ever allowing this group to work with my kids again. Another friend of mine was forced to Dr. Weinstock's group by the courts and after five years and several thousand dollars is still where he began! I hope this helps!
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