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| - Being Black in White Spaces: I decide to go to Park House for a beer. Ah yes I want to like Park House, I really do and I have tried several times. So I sit down and order a beer, with the help of a nice patron who actually heard me say I wanted a Belgian Beer that was not sour. (Not being heard or seen is part of being Black in white spaces and it is not the first time this has happened at Park House. Not being seen by the waitstaff and/or having a different encounter with staff than my white friends.)
So there are two TVs at the bar. One with local news, the one in from of me is showing the RNC. I say out loud, "Oh I cannot watch this...no."
A white woman at the bar overhears me and says, "This is your country, you have to educate yourself, you must watch it." I pause and think for a minute. Then I say, "I wasn't talking to you. You don't know anything about me." But she continues... [Feeling comfortable, confident and protected especially talking to someone who is not protected or respected is another thing about being Black in white spaces. And Park House is proving to be a white space.]
So I say, "Look I am surrounded by stupid white people all day, I don't need to take time out especially to watch them on TV."
Her response, "You're stupid." So now we're in kindergarten. And I notice a slight slurring of her speech, she is not on her first drink. I pause again. I look at the bartender for context. I ask, "Do you know her?" His response: "Oh she's here all of the time." [Ok that says something.] Me: "Does she always go around calling people stupid." His response: "Ummm..mmmmm.uhhh" complete with shoulder shrug.
[For the record. I have a Masters degree, is a former professor, worked on political campaigns before I could even vote, worked and volunteered for elected officials on local, state and national levels and anyway I could go on. But I was not, not in the mood to watch the --ump Fest.]
So I look her in her eye. "Did you just call me stupid?" She doesn't say anything. "Ok so now that I am looking at you, you have nothing to say."
Then she says it again, "You're stupid." At that moment a bit of advice given a long time ago came in my head. "If someone says something to you, ignore them, if they lay a hand on them, put them down." So I decided to finish my beer. It was a rather nice Saison and left.
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